Divorce?

What is divorce exactly? A divorce is a legal dissolve of a married by a court. In my humble opinion, I highly disagree with divorce. Now I understand that there are occasions, special occasions, where divorce would be a good thing. Well maybe not a good thing but a necessary thing to do. I think most things are able to be worked out in marriage, unless you are forced to marry somebody, you at one point were in love with your spouse or significate other. And if you want a divorce, somewhere along the way you lost sight of what you loved in that person. Maybe something changed, maybe your significant other and got in a car accident it doesn't look the same or maybe she or he developed cancer or maybe they changed in personality or started doing something that you don't particularly like or maybe it’s simply the fact that you just fight all the time. The truth is there are 1,000,000 reasons why somebody would divorce or want to divorce. However, in my opinion there should be a billion reasons why you shouldn't divorce. The issues that I listed are real issues and they can be hard but in a non-religion and in religious marriages I believe that they say something along the lines of in sickness and in health never do we part. That means you shouldn't be getting a divorce. I truly believe that if you were willing to marry that person to being with, you can find a way to make it last. And maybe you fell out of love with this person but there's no reason why you can't put in a little effort and fall back in love with them. A big reason why people get divorced is because of the lack of communication and the lack of expressing what they need in and expressing their expectations. From what I've seen in my life many people get divorced because they stop trying because they think once they got married that they won, and they don't have to do anything else to keep winning the love of the other person. They stop talking they stop communicating what they need and what they want. Well technically I don't believe that you have to win love from another person, but I do think you have to nurture that love like a little baby fire that you have to keep growing. What I believe happens in marriage is that sometimes we become casual in our marriage and we don't nurture that love because we think it's always going to be there and, in some cases, it might always be there, and you might always love that person, but you might not be with that person if you don’t repeatedly show them that you love them. One of my favorite quotes of all time is “casualness brings casualties”. I think this quote 100% applies in marriage and I think the biggest casualty in marriage would be divorce.

Now that I've explained a little bit about why you shouldn't get divorced or why divorce is an easy way out or a quick fix. I think it is appropriate to discuss when a divorce is necessary. I think physical and mental abuse would be a good reason to get divorced. is your husband or spouse is being abusive and there's no way to fix it divorce would be necessary in my opinion. One reason that could maybe be considered is infidelity. I personally think I would divorce if my wife wasn't loyal, however there are cases where people have saved their marriages after cheating and really made it into something amazing and beautiful. Drug addictions, prison, murder are all other possibilities to consider divorce. Depending on the situation of course. there are probably a few others as well.