Marriage is important, fun, exciting, maybe a little scary at first. So how can we prepare and make our marriages stay fun and last and have a good marriage. Well first off preparing for a good marriage comes well before actually getting married. It starts off with who you date and how you date them we kind of already talked about this in one of my previous blogs. It's important to go on many dates many different dates with the same person in order to get to know them in different areas. And once you've done this you can then decide if you feel like you are very compatible with the person or not as compatible. Once you've done this and accepted this person proposed to them the next step would be engagement. Now each one of these steps is really important to successful marriage. A successful engagement would be planning. You want to plan your goals and life missions, where you want to live, your wedding! Also during these stages you want to demonstrate hopefully what you demonstrated while you're dating the girl. You want to demonstrate leadership, trust, loyalty, planning, your ability to plan and be on the same page as her. In short that would be more or less a successful engagement. now the wedding statistically people that have very large weddings and spend a whole lot of money on their weddings are more likely to fail in their marriage than people that don't spend as much money on their weddings. Or maybe you are not paying for the wedding but your parents are, but that's another step in the wrong direction, no matter how you look at it, most people feel indebted to their parents for paying for their wedding. And you better bet that you'll be spending Christmas in the Holidays with them for the rest of forever.
We've come to the part where you're actually married. To be honest if you've been successful this far in your relationship with this person, all you have to do is remember that you still need to do all those things that you were doing at the beginning of the relationship. Taking him or her on dates even after you're married is critical and spending time with the person and deepening your connection with them. Just because you've got married to them doesn't mean you've won, or finished, it's just the beginning, just the start! Now when you have kids’ things change, it's not just you and your significant other. There’re other people in equation that need love and attention and support. Maybe you won't get all the attention that you wanted or have gotten in the past and that's a change, a big change. But knowing and anticipating these kinds of changes will undoubtedly help you in this transition. Now just because there's a new change or a new adjustment into what you're used to doesn't mean you should stop doing everything that you were doing before, in fact you may need to do those things more. Marriage takes two and if it’s going to work you are going to need to work together and have clear expectations for each other. Now I've never been married so it's kind of hard for me to give this advice or write this stuff down and tell you guys about it but if we're going off statistics and facts and testimonies of marriage counselors these are all things that we need to do. I know personally that I'm trying to implement these teachings and understandings in my life right now so that I will be able to be a good husband and father one day.
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